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Narcissism has four main components: Superiority (the belief that I'm better than everyone else) Indifference (a lack of concern for other people) Fragility…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
Your brain has two modes: Problem Mode and Person Mode. In Problem Mode, you see your partner as a problem to be solved. In Person Mode, you see your…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
When you have a relationship problem, your brain wants to focus on your partner's behavior, not on yours. It wants to think about your partner's impact on…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
A good relationship is full of compassion, caring, love and investment, but none of those things are the foundation of a good relationship. The foundation…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
Intimacy is Into-Me-You-See. You can create intimacy in your relationship by revealing your true self to your partner without needing their validation. True…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
If you crash your car three times a week, nobody's gonna call it an accident. But if you hurt your partner's feelings three times a week, people will call…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
Every relationship is narcissistic, and some relationships are more narcissistic than others. No matter how narcissistic your relationship is, your life…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
If you want to know who I am, ask my wife what it's like to be married to me. Ask her what it was like two years ago compared to what it's like today. If…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
Your therapist wants to talk to you about your parents because your parents had a significant impact on how your brain developed. This article has three…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
Your brain wants you to focus on your partner's impact on you. It wants you to feel like your partner has to change for you to be okay. Your brain does this…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
Intimate relationships are the primary driver of human growth. You fall in love with someone, but eventually your feelings fade and the reality of who you…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
Your default programming is to make a fuss when you don't get what you want. That's how you stayed alive as an infant. When you were hungry, you made a…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
One of the biggest lies we're told in society is that the key to a good relationship is to find a better partner. The truth is that you will not be able to…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
James: Is there ever a good reason to yell at your kids? Catherine : Maybe if they're actively running into traffic. James: That's exactly what I thought.…
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James Christensen & Catherine Roebuck James: There's a thing I tell clients who are trying to regain their partner's trust after cheating. One way to regain…
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A Conversation Between James Christensen and Catherine Roebuck March 30, 2026 James: The way I think about it is the more intense an experience is—well…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
Most of us try to get our partner to change by showing how much we're hurting. A couples therapist on why that backfires and what to do instead.
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
Emotional abuse is intentional. When we hurt each other's feelings, we're usually doing it on purpose. If I crash my car three times a week, you’re not…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
Differentiation of self, developed by Murray Bowen and applied to couples by David Schnarch, is your ability to hold onto yourself while staying connected…
Couples Therapy Blog | Relationship Advice from a TherapistArticle
About 20% of ever-married men and 13% of ever-married women report an affair. What research says about who cheats, why, and whether marriages recover.