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Maybe the Best Memories Are the Ones We Never Planned
A personal essay about attention, phones, unplanned moments, and why an ordinary morning with someone you love can become a lasting memory.
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Ten Years in Los Angeles: I’m Not the Person Who Arrived Here
A personal essay about ten years in Los Angeles, the life built after leaving Toronto, and the costs and growth that came with it.
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Can You Still Call Somewhere Home After You Leave?
A personal essay about leaving home, living between Canada and Los Angeles, and why more than one place can hold the feeling of home.
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When Did Our Parents Start Getting Older?
A personal essay about noticing parents and family get older, making time for the ordinary days that matter, and asking the questions we still can.
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Part Two: The Memories I Haven’t Made Yet
A reflection on using nostalgia to understand what matters without missing the ordinary present-day moments that will become future memories.
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Part One: Maybe I Don’t Miss the Past. Maybe I Miss Who I Was Then.
A personal essay about nostalgia, the selves we used to be, and why the edited past can feel safer and more meaningful than the present.
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Does Everything We Enjoy Eventually Have to Become Productive?
A personal essay on hobbies, monetization, optimization, and protecting parts of what you enjoy from turning into more work.
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Most Adult Friendships Don’t End. They Slowly Disappear.
A personal essay on adult friendships, drifting apart, reconnecting, and why the relationships that still matter need more than memories and good intentions.
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Why Is It So Hard to Relax When Nothing Is Actually Wrong?
A personal essay on rest, productivity guilt, hustle culture, and learning that an unproductive hour is not evidence that you are failing.
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How Do You Stay Ambitious When Work Stops Feeling Stable?
How to keep caring about your career after layoffs and instability by building ambition, identity, and momentum beyond a single employer.
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You’re Not Behind. The Timeline Was Built for a Different Time.
Why so many adults feel behind, how old milestones stopped matching modern life, and better ways to measure whether your life is moving forward.
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The Blog Is Back.
A relaunch essay for The Unofficial Guide to Being an Adult, reflecting on why the blog is back, how the site has changed, and how it connects to the upcoming book.
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How to Support Someone Who Is Unemployed: What Helps vs. What Hurts
7 months. That's how long the third stint of my unemployment journey is lasting at the moment. I've been grateful to finally dip my toe into consulting, but so far these have been temporary opportunities, and I'm still y
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Reflections from Japan, Part Two: The Beauty & Horrors of Timing, Effort, and Building Legacy
Another week back in 'real life' and I have to admit, there's been good and bad days since posting part one last week. Despite going through unemployment before, I can't say that I ever feel prepared to go through it aga
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Reflections from Japan, Part One: Searching for Peace & Simplicity In An Unemployed World
So, I'm back on the job market again. This will be the third time I have been looking for a new role since 2022, and as much as this has bruised my ego and made me think I'm the worst marketer on the planet, it seems to
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The Complexities of Unemployment
Facing unemployment again after two and a half years, I'm sharing my journey to shed light on the realities of being laid off. Discover insights on handling job loss, combating stress, and the challenges of job hunting i
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Q&A - May 9 2024
As promised, back with another short Q&A based on some of the self-reflection questions asked by WNRS we're not really strangers. Today's questions revolve around my past, and how it continues to affect me presently. I'm
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Q&A - May 1 2024
Looks like I lied back in February when I said that I would try to write more; as I haven't sat and typed words on this blog in almost 3 months. Well, rather than dwell on this, I figured I'd use it as motivation to laun
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Healthy Relationships
I reflect on my relationship experiences and share insights from my one-year anniversary with my girlfriend. I discuss the importance of being oneself in a relationship, the value of patience and understanding, the signi
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Paris Thoughts vol. 2
Continuing from my previous posthttps://viewsfromamaninthe6ix.wordpress.com/2023/01/15/paris-thoughts-vol-1/, here are some ramblings from having the time to self-reflect on how 2022 affected me and what I hope to bring